Thursday, April 20, 2017

It's Ok NOT to Be Gray


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Hi Silver Sister! Long-time- no see! I just wanted to pop in an have a super quick, little chat with you. Just something that came to mind and I wanted to share!

For as long as I've been blogging about going gray, I've received regular emails from fellow silver sisters about the trials and tribulations of growing out our hair. Often these emails made me feel sad because the sweet women writing me were themselves sad. Some didn't love their newly gray hair and were unsure of what to do. Some felt terrible guilt for deciding to color their hair after a time of growing it out. There has been a lot of talk of being a "failure" over "just not being able to do it." 

I want to tell you, although I often sit here and cheer on the "Silver Sister," I hold just as much respect, admiration and love for all of our Silver Sisters who just happen to be silver underneath their brunette, blond, black and red hair. It's true! It is absolutely, 100% ok to just be the version of YOU, that works the best for YOU! 😊

In fact, I often find myself responding to these emails with the truth- the truth that, if my gray hair had grown out all those years ago, and I didn't like it enough, I'd be searching to the ends of the earth for a brown hair dye that I wasn't allergic to. I'd still be brunette today!

So, gray or not, short hair, long hair, no hair, it's all ok. Go easy on yourself know that you are great just the way you are. 💖

Until next time!

1 comment :

Viola said...

Lauren, you're great! I came upon your blog years ago when I decided at 33 to stop coloring my hair. I went through the long process, like you, of growing it out and hearing a barrage of comments. Sadly, many were unsupportive and indifferent at best. I kept the silver going for fours years and recently felt the urge for a change and decided to color again. I felt the guilt (some days still do), the doubt, and the whole gamut of feelings, but overall realized it IS ok to want to color your hair--or not. It's all up to the individual. Thanks so much for making that important point. Keep being your wonderful self! :D